For the first time,in as long as I can remember I am not consistently training or playing for a sports team at a good competitive level. From the age of 10 I have been involved in some type of competitive sports (athletics, netball, roller derby), training, playing and competing. Even through having children I would train for as long as I could before baby arrived and return as quick as I could after giving birth.
However, since livs arrival this has not been the case. Sadly I could not return to roller derby and commit to travelling for 2 hours 3x a week even though I really really miss it and would love to still play. Stu and I joined the gym together to make sure we were both still doing some exercise, but the motivation and time for this was very low and only lasted the year membership. I have occasionally been playing fun league netball as and when I can but this has also been hard fitting it in with working night shifts.
I also now have two daughters that compete at Gymnastics, so most of my weekends are often busy with competitions or training sessions. For the first time in my life, their sport/activity has taken priority over my own and its quite a strange feeling.
So, what do I do now to keep me busy? Well at first I wasn’t doing much, and I really started to notice that this correlated with my mental health and how I was feeling. So I decided to get some new hobbies to keep my mind busy, do something for myself, relax and try to improve my mental health.
I have always loved interiors and decor, I can remember once I had my own bedroom, I painted it myself, got my mum to make some funky unique curtains and constantly move the furniture around (still have that problem now). However, we have lived in rented properties for most of our married life so have been unable to decorate or make any big changes, however in our new (ish) house this is totally different and we can do whatever we want. So I am well and truly throwing myself into this!! We have built a partition wall to make an additional bedroom, currently redoing the kitchen and bathroom, I’m constantly redecorating,changing rooms around and I Love it. It fills me with so much joy.
What I have also started doing which ties in with this, is a lot of crafting and making things myself to decorate the house. I love upcyclying furniture, making yarn wall hangings and trying anything first before spending money. This has also opened my eyes to shopping in charity shops. I love to find a bargain and use it or upcycle it to achieve the look want. The children love this too as they usually end up getting something, we even made an activity of this last half term and spent the day going around lots of charity shops looking for bargains.
Obviously something I started was this blog, I am really enjoying writing and getting my own views across on certain subjects. I also find it very therapeutic.
I have very recently started playing netball for my sisters team, at first I was just a fill in as my sister broke her hand, but it looks like I’m going to be playing more regularly which is really nice, and feels good to be part of a team and exercising again.
My mental health has greatly improved just by doing these activities, and it’s very important to be aware of looking after yourself. Doing things for yourself is not selfish but essential. I also find music really helps so whilst I’m decorating I usually have music on. Don’t get me wrong I still have bad days where I don’t feel like doing anything and feel low but I’m happy to say these are few and far between.
What do you do for yourself? Would love to hear from you.