We have recently been on a weekend away to Berlin to celebrate a friends 40th birthday, CHILD FREE!! We had an amazing and relaxing time and it was very well needed. We are true believers in needing to have some time to ourselves and away from the kids is very important. Since becoming parents 16 years ago we have been abroad 5 times without the children and had numerous weekend breaks in cornwall and other places.
We are obviously very lucky to have a really good support system around us to allow us to do this, and yes it was a lot easier at first with just the older two to get looked after, now with the 4, we often have to split the childcare among family or my mother in law lives at our house for the weekend.
Don’t get me wrong this is not a regular occurance, there is usually a special occasion which coincides with the breaks, but we make the most of them when they come around. For example we have been to 2 foreign weddings, celebrated many birthdays and anniversaries and attended sporting events/competitions.
Although it is hard to leave them, and you do naturally worry about them while you are gone (and probably talk about them most of the time) it is good for you to have a small break. Even if it means you get a bit of a lie in, a bath to yourself, you dont hear the words “mummmmm” every 5 mins, then it is worth it. You would not leave your children unless you knew they were in safe hands, so you know deep down they are fine so just relax and enjoy yourself.
I saw a really good saying the other day and I thought it rang very true, I can’t remember exactly how it went but it was along the lines of:
Before there were children, there was only two of you,so make sure when the children are gone, you still like being the two of you.
If you are lucky enough to have childcare around then make the most of them or hire a babysitter and go out just the two of you and enjoy it.
Another thing I do, which i can’t remember where I heard it but agreed with it, is not to have photos of the kids in our bedroom, to just have pics of us together and make it our adult room. I have done this, but it doesn’t hide the pile of toys or the small little child who still sleeps with us. So not quite an adult only room 😂😂😂😂😂.
This is not to say I don’t love my kids and doing things as a family, that goes without saying, it’s just very easy for everything to become about them, so it’s natural, healthy and important to spend time together.
Sorry its been so long in between blogs, I lost my mojo a bit but its back now, so plan to start regularly writing again. Let me know if there is anything you would like me to write about.